FAQs

What makes Delight Counselling different from other services is that clients will be encouraged to research their own relationship patterns with others and to redefine themselves in less anxiety driven ways. This is not the same as traditional counselling or psychotherapy method which the emphasis is on healing past wounds through expressing individual thoughts and beliefs. Instead, I would encourage clients to move beyond current struggles and try to look at the relationship patterns in the family that shape the roles that each person comes to occupy in current relationships. In this way, clients are more able to understand how their behaviours and ways of thinking affect relationships in relation to others within a much broader generational context.

CAN I HAVE COUNSELLING EVEN THOUGH I AM NOT REALLY 'ILL'?

You do not have to be in crisis or on the verge of one before choosing to have counselling. It appears that the public doesn’t always understand what counselling is all about. Still today some people avoid counselling because it could cost them their jobs and reputations. In fact, counselling is not just about crisis management or surviving, it is about thriving. It is about taking care of your mental health before things have become worse. It is also about learning how to live out a more fulfilling life with professional help.

WHAT DO I NEED TO PREPARE FOR MY FIRST SESSION?

First, you can think about what you want from counselling in general. Second, you can decide what you would like from me as a professional (i.e. Do you want me to sit and listen silently? Do you want me to offer advice and suggestions?). Third, you can make a list of topics you would like to bring up in your first session (i.e. have a clear idea of things you definitely want to discuss). Fourth, go in ready to be open and honest.

WHAT IF COUNSELLING BECOMES TOO PAINFUL FOR ME?

Very often in counselling sessions some of your feelings and thoughts will appear which seem very difficult to handle and manage. You may be faced with difficult moments that happened in the past. My desire is to create a safe environment so that your distress can be contained, and you can decide how quick the conversation would be. If the topic is too painful for you to discuss further, you are free to stop and find another time to revisit it. The good news is you don’t have to deal with all these by yourself.

WHEN COULD I END COUNSELLING?

The first step is to check in with yourself. Are your concerns being resolved after coming to counselling? Are you able to move on and live a more fulfilling life on your own? Are you armed with enough tools to face future challenges? Make some notes for these questions. Check in with yourself again at different times during counselling and see whether you might want to discuss all of this with your counsellor about your thoughts of ending the work. There is nothing wrong if you want to end the work early on in the counselling journey if you find yourself not ready to move things forward.