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HOW TO STOP OVERTHINKING?
April 28, 2018
If you wish to break through your habit of overthinking, you first need to acknowledge and begin to aware of it when it starts affect your daily functioning. The habit of overthinking often starts off with self-doubt, not believing in yourself, or feeling stressed and anxious how other people will see you, just take a step backward and look at the situation from an outside perspective. In that moment of self-awareness, a seed of change is planted. Also, the habit of overthinking often springs forth from that person who wants to seek perfection in every aspect of his life. Being ambitious is great, but when one’s desire is to aim for perfection, the whole ambition will become unrealistic, and even toxic to one’s own well-being because he or she is constantly looking for potential risks of failure. The moment you begin to think “All these have to be absolute perfect” is the moment you need to pause and remind yourself that perfection is not an ideal outcome. Instead, you might start develop a new thinking pattern, “Seeking perfection might not as good as just simply making progress.”
HOW TO USE YOUR TIME EFFECTIVELY?
March 28, 2018
Time is precious when you want to live a meaningful and intentional life. There are a few tips that might be helpful for those who want to use their times effectively. First, make sure all daily activities are somehow related to the goals that you set for yourself, both short- and long-term. Any unnecessary tasks could be a potential time-waster. Second, once you set your goals, prioritize relevant tasks and activities wisely based on how important they are. You can write down three or four important tasks that need to be addressed and completed today. As you make progress or complete one of those tasks, it gives you a brief idea of how you can plan ahead and distribute an adequate amount of time to tackle more essential and pressing items in near future. Third, you need to remove irrelevant distractions when you are in the midst of an important task. Be courageous to say “NO” to other invitations or opportunities that will drift you away from your goals. You might be required to practice heavily in will power in order to reject some really good offers. So be grateful with what you have now and do not attempt to compare with others.
HOW EXPRESS YOUR EMOTIONS INCREASE CONFIDENCE?
February 28, 2018
Our society has conditioned us not to express and share our feelings easily which simply make many people at one time or another find it extremely difficult to say how they feel even in front of those they love. Many people don’t want to have conflicts or arguments. You may believe that not getting engaged with verbal “fights” is the right thing to do. In addition, you may even believe that disclosing feelings such as anger, sadness, shame, depression, or anxiety might result in rejection from others whom you care. You are so terrified by rejection and eventually you rather swallow your feelings and suffer loneliness even when someone begins to take the chance of abusing you in relationships. When you choose to bury your feelings, you act differently. You might decide to react inappropriately, putting up false masks, or not fully engaged when you spend time with other people. The more you hide away from your emotions, the worse you feel about yourself. Thus, the best way to be more assertive about yourself is to be authentic and open to how you feel, but not to embarrass or blast another human being. If you receive backfire or rejections from the person you love when you convey your true feelings, maybe you should give yourself a benefit of the doubt and say, “Maybe he/ she doesn’t deserve me.”